They say that life begins at 40, but for some this may be a little early. Many older dads find themselves single either through divorce, separation or bereavement. So, the search for a new partner, and a new life, can begin at any age.
You’re never too old to dive back into the dating game, even if the idea of doing so fills you with dread. We all deserve to continue to live our lives to the fullest. Here’s some advice for dads looking for love, when they may have thought they were past all that.
You may feel that it has been so long since you went out on a date that you just don’t know where to start. But actually, there are plenty of places to start looking. There are opportunities for over 60s dating at singles centres; chances to meet new people at evening classes; social events organised by the local gym; and even dedicated singles events aimed specifically at the mature dater.
Online dating is a great way to meet like-minded people. You can find out more about potential partners using private messages before committing to a date. You can even arrange to speak on the phone or on Skype. It’s the perfect way to ease yourself into the world of dating.
To make the most of it, always complete your profile as fully and honestly as you can. Make sure you include recent photos, are clear about the things that are important to you and avoid humour which could be misread.
There’s no rule that says that every date you go on needs to lead to a life-long partner. Some will just be a pleasant evening and nothing more. Don’t try to rush your search for a new partner – you really can’t hurry love.
Choose somewhere you feel comfortable for your date rather than somewhere to impress. By being yourself you’re allowing your date to see the real you which is, after all, the one who will emerge sooner or later.
Your children may have their own ideas about dad dating again. Try and involve them in discussions without worrying them with the nitty gritty of each date or encounter. Make sure that your dates are organised around their needs, and never introduce a new partner until you’re confident the relationship will last.
Dating can easily stir up memories about past loves. Remember that honesty need not be emotional intensity. Avoid spending your dates rehashing the details of relationship breakdowns and heartaches.
Whilst dads may never be too old to have another shot at love, we all still need a little help from lady luck to turn those initial dates into a new relationship. If you’re thinking of looking for love again: be lucky!